More Little Old Ladies!" is Here -- Watch the Video
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Mary Lloyd: Choosing to Choose
I am writing this as Election Day looms—a time when we make some very significant choices. These are big, important decisions and we need to respect them enough to do them well.
there’s an entire realm of choices we make by default day after day that it
might be good to think about, too. What better time than this—when we are
focused on “choosing”--to take a look at those.
Making choices this way is the meek way to live. It means you never consider anything beyond what you already know, what you already do, what you are already comfortable with. It also means that you feel “stuck” with what you are doing—a “victim of circumstance” rather than captain of your own destiny.
Joyce Shafer: How to Be the Experience You Wish to Have
Ever have one of those moments, events, or days when it appears if it can go wrong it seems to? Were you pleased with how you managed yourself, and the outcome?
The event was one I not only looked forward to, but carefully planned for. My handouts, business cards, and artificial bonsai tree were packed and ready to go in my wheeled suitcase the day before the event. It was scheduled to start at noon and last until two o’clock; which meant I needed to be at the site for 11:30 so I could set up my table. And, I’d been told to expect about two hundred people to attend. I was ready!
The morning of the event, I went through my usual meditative routine, and included my mantra, used especially when I have to commute or travel: I’m always in the right place at the right time with the right action and the right people.
Will You Be an Obsolete 100 Watt Bulb?
Barbara Morris, R. Ph.
I had a conversation with a retired engineer whose health problems were eating up a big chunk of his retirement income every month. He was doing everything possible to make ends meet such as using coupons, asking for senior discounts, and living a frugal lifestyle but he just couldn't make ends meet.
I said to him, "Have you thought about getting a part time job -- you have a lot of experience you could put to good use." His response was so angry you would have thought I had insulted his mother. "Look, Barbara," he sniffed, "I've worked all my life and I deserve my retirement."
Everybody who chooses to retire deserves their retirement. Many people get to age 65 and have done all they are able to do mentally and physically, but most people at retirement age have more life left in them than they realize. Maybe they don't want to work 40 hours every week, but they are too young and vital to vegetate, and they know it.
When a relatively healthy retiree defends the decision to stop being productive with the "I've worked all my life" declaration -- it's not accurate. If you are retired and not working, you cannot say "I've worked all my life" because your life is not yet over. You have yet to explore and exploit all of your potential that could benefit yourself and others.
What's More Important: Food or Cosmetics?
Barbara Morris, R. Ph.
In this month's Links section, you will see a press release, "Women sacrifice food before cosmetics." It claims that according to surveys, "Women are not only reluctant to reduce their spending on cosmetics but when their purses come under pressure they are more willing to scrimp and save on food." Wow!
It's baffling that many women seem not to understand that what they eat and drink (or do not eat and drink) every day over a long period of time eventually shows on the appearance of the face and body. If your body were a book it could be said that you can tell what’s inside the book by its' cover.
Women will often spend a ton of money on external moisturizers but drink little or any water. I recall one woman who said she never drinks water -- hasn't done so in years -- she drinks diet Coke exclusively. She's very overweight and doesn't understand the connection between the diet cola consumption and the weight gain. There is ample research that indicates artificial sweeteners are linked to weight gain.
Give Your Opinion: What Should I Do?
In last month's issue, the article, "How Much Skin to Show After Age 40" generated a bit of controversy. I asked The Image Architect Sandy Dumont to weigh in on the issue. Here is her reply:
"Even if you have the best bod in town, it is never appropriate at any age to dress provocatively. According to Prof. Peter Glick, PhD., in a working environment, provocative dress gets you labeled a bimbo and will ruin your chance for promotion, etc. In her landmark book, “The Female Brain,” Louann Brizendine, MD, says that even in festive after-hour business occasions, you can’t dress provocatively.
So, as to how much skin to show. It depends on where that skin is. At the chest, tummy or thigh area, be conservative. If you have great legs, like Betty Ford, then you can wear your skirts above the knee by an inch – maybe two - even if you are 85!"
A local TV anchorwoman, well over 40, wears very short skirts. When she sits in front of the anchor desk to do an interview it's distracting, to put it politely. It appears she does not wear pantyhose. I cannot believe the station management is so clueless. I've been tempted to send her an email with Sandy's advice. Should I do it or just get over it? Help me decide by participating in the survey: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=exfHCQfbJLcqMIlg6h1ZcQ_3d_3d The only reason I'm bothering is that I have the station on for breakfast and she's giving me indigestion. Yes, I know I should change the station . . . but aside from Madam X, it's a great morning show.
About Your Editor
Hi, I'm Barbara Morris. My subscribers know who I am but if you just stumbled across the newsletter, I'm the resident pharmacist, opinionated ageless diva and knower of all things dealing with aging. I'm Putting Old on Hold and if you stick with me, I'll help you do it too!
The purpose of this newsletter is to help mid-life and younger women understand that they have the power to manage their aging process. Even with unforeseen life events, women can determine 70 percent of the state of their mental and physical condition 25 or more years into the future. It's all about developing a vision, and having the will to plan and prepare.This newsletter is also intended to inspire women of every age, to motivate and provide tools to aid the worthy quest of healthy agelessness.
Recommended Links for books or other good stuff
Bless Your Stress by C. Leslie Charles and Mimi Donaldson
The Miracle of Bioidentical Hormones by Michael E. Platt, M.D.
Don't Stop the Career Clock- Rejecting the Myths of Aging for a New Way to Work in the 21st Century by Helen Harkness, Ph.D.
Bold Retirement- Mining Your Own Silver for a Rich Life
by Mary Lloyd
Planning Tools for Bold Retirement Workbook (New!) by Mary Lloyd
Write, Get Published and Promote by Joyce Shafer
If you have a favorite book it can be included here. Please allow your name to be used as the person who made the recommendation.